Session 5 – Facing Forward
Posted by: Ronda Devereaux | June 22, 2014 | 11:11 am
Facing Forward is Session 5 in Danielle Laporte’s Firestarter Sessions. I like that idea – Facing Forward. While it is not a bad thing to look to the past for wisdom, insight and lessons learned, if you are always looking behind you it is really hard to get any momentum moving forward (and eventually you will probably fall on your face or your arse). Some of us spend so much time in the past we have no idea what the present is really like. So, in session 5, it is time to get present in the present, then once you are in the present, it’s time to look ahead.
You can’t face forward until you’ve processed your past. I told you to get in the present and look to the future and here I go bringing up the past again. Why? Because you are still holding on to it (well most of us are, whether we admit it or not). Pay attention to the stories you tell and from what context you tell them. Notice if you are on a merry-go-round. Let’s look to the past one last time, lessons learned, and be done with it. Are you ready?
PURGE THE PAST URGE WORKSHEET
Failure : it sucked hard; didn’t work; tanked; was rather regrettable; most definitely rough; painful; opps; bad move; agony; lost; reputation damaged; tough times; ouch.
Lesson: live and learn; made you better; much to be grateful for if you really think about it; something to laugh about once you get far enough away from it; strength and character building; consciousness raising; karma; education you didn’t have to pay for; life, experienced.
WHAT ARE YOUR PAST FAILURES, MISTAKES, HURTS, TANKS? GET THEM OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM.
1. Think about your three favorite screwups. By “favorite,” I mean the biggest doozers. They were such fiascos that you just gotta love ’em. Can’t come around to reliving your F-ups quite yet? Then just pick the first screwups that come to mind.
2. What did you learn? Cynicism won’t get you very far here. Truthfully and philosophically ask yourself what you learned. What were your eyes opened to that they weren’t before? How were you made stronger by the experience?
3. Can you see a pattern in the lessons you learned? Annoyingly, this also referred to as “repeating lessons.” Humans can’t seem to avoid making the same mistakes more than once. Bless us.
4. How did what you learned change the way you approach things? It’s only a lesson if it shifted your perspective or the way that you behave.
Things you could do when you’re done the purge: Write HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA! in big letters across your page. Tear it up into teeny-tiny pieces. Burn it! Start a fire with it! Mail it to yourself with a love letter extolling all of your many virtues.
GLORY BOARDING W O R K S H E E T
What are your victories + accomplishments? Sing your praises. If you’re feeling too shy to blow your own horn, answer like your BFF or the person who loves you most would answer. Go back as far in your life as you need to for evidence of greatness. This is your résumé of wonder. You:
Inspired: Launched: Earned: Graduated: Wrote: Produced: Raised: Wrangled: Traveled: Motivated: Sold: Bought: Gave: Made: Won: Organized: Transformed: Discovered:
Keep going. What else have you done, been, or created? When you’re done creating your glory board: Post it where you can see it. Read it before bed and then pay close attention to your dreams. Rewrite your bio. Burn it! Set it free! There’s more where that came from.