Session 13 – Money : More Is More. Enough Is Plenty.
Posted by: Ronda Devereaux | July 20, 2014 | 10:33 am
Session 13 in Danielle Laporte’s Firestarter Sessions is all about your relationship (or lack of one) with Money. She tells us that there are two kinds of having: the material and the experiential. Stuff to own, keep, borrow; and experiences to experience. The question is, what actually matters to you? If you sit with that question a bit, you will realize how wise it is. It starts down the path to creating some insight about how, what and why you use money. It will give you a reference to consider before your next purchase. Something to ponder before you pass over that plastic.
When you establish your purpose for money, you have a rudder to help guide your purchases, investments, destinations, savings – all the things that you do with money. You also motivate yourself to go get what you want the most.
I know a lot of people that drive some really nice bad ass cars, yet will live in a shack. Some will spend $10K a year on a vacation and drive an old beater. Until high school, my three girls attended a private school, yet I have always been discerning about how much I spent on a car. This session is about discernment and getting clear on your desired life. Then you’ll be clear on you purpose for money. Once you are clear on your purpose then you can match your actions with that purpose.
Now that we know our purpose for money how are we going to bring it through the door? I know the law of attraction tells you to visualize it and it will come, but it fails to point out that built within the word attraction is the word action. Our culture has become the entitlement culture. Just talk to someone between the age of 18-22 and ask them how much they should be making an hour. Then ask them what they should have to do for that really big number they pulled out of their hat.
We need to believe in ourselves and the value of what we deliver, but we also need to pay attention to the consumers and our community at large. We can believe that the value we deliver may be worth X amount of dollars or destined for greater things, but in the end that needs to be proven. We still need to work at it, do our homework take some risks and sometimes check our ego at the door.
When you know your value, then it is time to work on your relationship with money. How do you feel about it? There is a reason that 90% of the people that win the lottery end up broke. The money has come in, but they haven’t done the work on their relationship with it. So now get quiet for a minute and take some time to contemplate your relationship with money and go through the worksheet below.
FREELY ASSOCIATING WITH MONEY W O R K S H E E T
QUICK HABIT ANALYSIS
What do you love spending money on?
What do you wildly resent paying for?
What do you consider luxurious?
When, where, and how are you cheap?
When, where, and how are you generous?
RAISE YOUR FANTASY FREQUENCY
What’s your most common money fantasy? Do you see yourself winning the lottery, getting a big raise, marrying into money, having a top seller, watching your stocks go through the roof, getting a new car at factory prices? If your number one fantasy didn’t come true, then what would be your next-best fantasy? If that didn’t come through, then what would be ideal? And if that didn’t happen, then what would be a great way to have money come into your life? And so on. The point of this exercise is to imagine as many different ways as possible that money can enter into your life. Awaken part of your money memories that might be dormant, and consider that money is everywhere .
GET EMOTIONAL ABOUT MONEY
Answer the following questions as honestly as you can.
How do you feel:
About your debt?
About your income?
About your savings and assets?
About anyone who owes you money?
When you pay for experiences and outings?
When you go grocery shopping?
When you shop for gifts?
When you shop for clothes?
When you shop for decor, art, or collectibles.
Identify what pure positivity with money would feel like.
If you have negative feelings that showed up in some of the above answers, think of the positive feelings that counter those. For example, if how you feel about your debt is heavy, burdened, or resentful, perhaps the positive contrast would be promising, empowered, and grateful.
Choose just one positive money emotion—the one that feels the most vital and exciting to you— and think of one action you can take in each of the money areas below that will help you feel that way:
How you spend money
How you save money
How you give money
How you receive money
How you manage money
For example, if the feeling you want the most around money is gratitude, what can you do when spending your money to feel grateful? Is it keeping a gratitude journal for the things you buy, or being extra polite to sales clerks, or saying a quiet “thanks for the ability to pay my bills,” when you’re writing a check to the electric company? Say your most positive feeling is security. What can you do in regard to how you manage your money to feel that way? Create monthly cash flow projections, join an investment group, write your will, start a new savings account? There are unlimited ways to create the positive feelings you want in every interaction you have with money.