Session 12 – Calling All Sovereigns Of Time!
Posted by: Ronda Devereaux | July 16, 2014 | 7:47 pm
Time – there never seems to be enough of it. In fact, it was really hard to find time this week to write this blog. In Session 12 of the Firestarter Sessions Danielle Laporte says Systems for running our lives can be useful, but they can also enslave us. What you say? Throw out all my time management books, to do lists and calendars (add the watch while you are at it… just kidding). Ask yourself, are you getting done what you want to get done? If not, is it because you have too much on your plate, doing things that you shouldn’t be doing, or you feel if you are not slaving away 24/7 your just not cutting it.
Organization, systemization, standardization – how do you get more out of those miserly 24 hours? Do you even have any time in your life without structure? If so, what do you do with it (spend it wondering what you aren’t doing that you should be doing)? Does guilt play a part of your play time as well? When you are getting that massage, is your to do list running rampant in that little brain of yours?
Time management systems can suppress our own innate wisdom and cravings for vitality. Unstructured time leaves room for us to be creative. Space around us leaves room for something new to show up. Always feeling pushed leaves us with sharp edges and tense shoulders. What if we assessed everything on our calendar as to its nutritional value – Does this sustain me of exhaust me? What would get left off your plate then?
When I was a teen I was thinking about how fast time goes by when I had this insight – I realized that when you are under 5 your sense of time is from Christmas to Christmas (or birthday) – that’s a whole 365 days of waiting, once you hit school age your reference goes from school year to school year (9 months), and then when you are an adult your reference is from payday to payday (2 weeks). No wonder time slips by so fast when you only have to wait 2 weeks for something.
In the end the question is – do you manage your time or does your time still manage you? Do you make time, lose time, waste time or spend time? Can you morph time so that it expands when needed? Or can you wave your wand and get a days work done in an hour?
As we rush from one calendar event to the next, it is good to remember that Whatever is on your plate got there because you said yes to it. Not only did you say yes to it, but you added it to your calendar too… Do you let time bully you? Is frantic a state of mind? I invite you to create a new relationship with the old tick tock and leave chaos at the door (at the neighbor’s house). Changing how you speak about time affects your relationship with it. Just like changing the way you talk to yourself can affect how you perceive YOU, adjusting your attitude toward time can turn that frantic, chaos into a slow dance.
A PERFECT TWELVE WORKSHEET
In Esther and Jerry Hicks’s book Ask and It Is Given, Abraham Hicks suggests a beautiful exercise whereby you envision your ideal twelve hours. I’d like to add a twist to that: Envision an ideal “Home Day” (a slightly more down- to- earth scenario) and an ideal “Away Day” (a more fantastical scenario). It’s important to imagine both a doable day and a fantastical day because we want to create images that feel resonant and reachable, and loosen up some bigger possibility thinking.
HOME DAY PERFECTION
Keep your vision within the confines of space and time. Let your imagination and idealism unfurl, but save grossly impractical things like, “I wake up in Athens, lunch in Manhattan, and smoke a bedtime hookah in Rajasthan,” for your Away Day fantasy. In everyday life, where would you be, what would you be doing, who would you be with, what would you be eating, how would you be earning, helping, creating, living, loving in a span of twelve hours? Walk through everything that would go into the waking hours of blissdom for you. Focus on ideal. If bliss would be “I’m working in my jammies from
home,” and presently you’re commuting three hours to the office, write it down anyway.
AWAY DAY PERFECTION
In an extravagant or time-bending day, where would you be, what would you be doing, whom would you be with, what would you be eating, how would you be earning, helping, creating, living, loving in a span of twelve hours? The whole point of this exercise is to actually create those ideal twelve hours— or as close to it, even if it’s just fifteen minutes, as frequently as possible until that idealism is the fabric of your everyday reality and lifestyle. Day to day makes up a lifetime.