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Session 11 – How You Show Up In The World

Posted by: Ronda Devereaux | July 9, 2014 | 4:44 pm

who are you


In Session 11 of the Firestarter Sessions, Danielle Laporte says that Yes, Carpenter Joe, you are, and always have been, a brand.


“Inside every organization is a driving force, a sense of purpose. This force is your brand. It is what you stand for. It is what sets you apart. It’s not a slogan or an ad campaign. It’s a living thing – the net result of behavior.” – Elizabeth Talerman, founder of Nucleus.


Every person is a brand based on their character, their integrity, and how they show up in this world. Are you who you say you are? Who are you, anyway? This isn’t about the picture perfect bio and photo that you have posted on your website or facebook page. This is about you and who you are in every moment. It’s not about the image you are trying to make the world believe is real. It is about the real you – whether you like to take that person out in the world or not.


When we try to be something or someone that we are not people notice. No, you are not fooling anyone. You may be able to fool them for a moment or two, but people are much smarter and more perceptive than we give them credit for. When we care more about what everyone else thinks about us than about what we think about ourselves, people notice that too. So, long term and always just be yourself. It will save you from lots of headaches and conserve energy at the same time, because pretending anything takes a lot of energy (just think about how hard it is to pretend you like your brother’s girlfriend).


This session is about getting interviewed to dig deeper into your story and who you are – imperfections and all. Our imperfections can be our greatest assets. Get real and tell yourself the truth – the REAL truth. About what you are doing, why you are here and what drives you. Look at who inspires, motivates and influences you. Look for the patterns/themes and you will get some insight into what you think is important. Put all of that into everything you do – your voice mail, your email signature, your shoes (have you seen my sparkly red shoes – I LOVE THEM!!!). Every part of you is a brand.


Danielle goes on to tell us to get over ourselves on the fear, loathing and dramatization of self promotion. If you are out in the world, you are self promoting. Take a deep breath. It is time to go back to the Work Book O’Fire armed with some curiosity, vulnerability, and openess – Are you ready?



Arm the best-known listener in your life, a professional copywriter, or your very own talented self with these prompts for storytelling and philosophical insight.


1. What do you know to be true, unquestionably beyond doubt, certain with every cell of your being, completely, passionately, righteously certain?


2. What was the dumbest thing that you used to believe it? What changed your mind?


3. What do you know the most about?


4. Why do you do what you do?


5. One word: breakthrough. What comes to mind?


6. What has been one of your most memorable experiences in your career?


7. What global policy, credo, practive, or law would you like to decree?


8. What exerience tested your mettle but made you a better person?


9. Finish this sentence: “It’s a good day when . . . “


10. When was the last time you thought, “Yes! That person has so got it going on!”?


11. What question in your life has had the biggest impact on you?


12. What are you postively addicted to? (Psych 101 defines positive addiction as “a healthy high that makes you stronger.” As long as the craving for it doesn’t take you over, then it’s, like, totally cool.)


13. What’s the best advice you were ever given in terms of business?


14. What’s the most common life advice that you give to your friends?


15. What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word devotion?


16. What are you most interested in?


17. What are you incredibly grateful for?


18. What’s your form of service to the world?



Oh would some power the gift give us,  to see ourselves as others see us! —Robert Burns


Asking someone who cares about you how they actually perceive you is courageous. It’s the kind of vulnerability that could crack you open. Sometimes another perspective can create a quantum leap for us. So take a deep breath and just ask. The prerequisite is this: Send these questions (or make up your own) only to someone whom you respect, who makes you feel more like yourself, and who actively adores you. This isn’t about being critiqued or toughened up. The purpose of this exercise is to see yourself more clearly so that you can

rise to your own fullness.


Dear Friend,


I’m taking a leap. Reaching out. Trolling for insights, reflections, and objectivity . . . from you so that I can see myself more clearly.


1. What do you think is my greatest strength?
2. How would you describe my style of living?
3. What do you think I should let go of?
4. When do you feel that I am at my best?
5. What do you wish I were less of, for my sake?
6. When have you seen me really shine?
7. What do you think I could give myself more credit for or celebrate more?

Article by: Ronda Devereaux

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