Even if you tell her that she’s beautiful, does she feel it? After all we are their mother’s and we are supposed to tell them that, right? (After a certain age they just shut out our tone of voice anyway.) How do we get through to them? One way to start is to dispel the myth that all the images that they see in magazines are real. Make some lemonade, sit them down, show them the video and then start the conversation. What is real beauty? Let them define what it means to them, and in turn, take a look at what it means to you!
As part of Dove’s campaign, they teamed up with girl scouts and created the Uniquely Me program. Many schools have offered this outside of scouting, and girl scouts presents it several times a year in different communities. Dove also published a report Real Girls, Real Pressure: A National Report on the State of Self-Esteems.
“Real Girls, Real Pressures” Report
Seven in ten girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members.
62% of all girls feel insecure or not sure of themselves.
57% of all girls have a mother who criticizes her own looks.
More than half (57%) of all girls say they don’t always tell their parents certain things about them because they don’t want them to think badly of them.
The top wish among all girls is for their parents to communicate better with them, which includes more frequent and open conversations about what is happening in their own lives.
Reality vs. Perception: Low self-esteem significantly impacts girls’ overall feelings about their own beauty.
71% of girls with low self-esteem feel their appearance does not measure up, including not feeling pretty enough, thin enough or stylish or trendy enough (compared to 29% of girls with high self-esteem.)
78% of girls with low self-esteem admit that it is hard to feel good in school when you do not feel good about how you look (compared to 54% of girls with high self-esteem.)
A girl’s self-esteem is more strongly related to how she views her own body shape and body weight, than how much she actually weighs.
If you would like to read the rest of the report, click here.