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Mothers and Daughters ~ Connecting Generations

I often reflect on how my middle school years compare to my daughters some 30 odd years later. It is a whole new world, with a lot of the same issues, but they start earlier, hit these girls harder and are exasperated by the media ten fold.

Those stories in the news today would ring true in any generation with some minor changes. A theme throughout seems to be hitting the “dreaded teen years” and distancing themselves from their parents (at the time they need them most). These girls are hungry for connection, but also for autonomy. They want to make their own choices, but some have never been allowed to make a choice in their whole life. How do they do it now??? As I said before, outward appearances are not an indication of the storm inside even if they are projecting that storm outward. We have to keep at them. Not by judging or controlling them, but listening to them, connecting with them, in any way that we can. Without some help, the loss of wholeness, self-confidence and self-direction can last well into adulthood (and beyond.. look around you – or in the mirror).

Many of us women struggle with the same issues that overwhelmed us as teens. Fitting in, conforming to some societal standard (as women, as parents, as members of the community). What about the women who are not struggling because they have forgotten that they have selves worth defending? They externalize and try to keep up with the Jones’. They have forgotten to ask themselves the question “Who am I?”, or better yet “Who do I want to be?” They think that wherever they are, that is where they are stuck. Women often know how everyone in their family thinks and feels but if you asked them how they felt, they would draw a blank. I think raising teen girls starts with women healing those parts of ourself that we have left behind. Putting the pieces back together so that we are whole. Sometimes it is a journey which coincides with our daughters (and we wonder why we all can’t get along). Their journey seems to bring us back into the space that we would rather not remember. I have always said that there is a synergy between teen girls and Mom’s feeling that push to do something different. I think that they remind us of what we have lost. Then we don’t want them to lose it. Then we want ours back. But oh wait, how do we do that?? Are you twirling in circles yet?

It all starts with our connection to ourselves, then extends out into our connection with others. I am not talking about superficial connections here. I am talking about connections of the heart. Connections where we are not afraid of looking in the mirror, or showing our true selves to others. Where our opinion of ourself matters more than anyone else’s opinion of us, and if we are not happy with something, we take the steps to change it (and I am not talking about a trip to the plastic surgeon here ladies). 

With a special gift for recognizing patterns, I have noticed a synergy between middle aged women and teenagers. After all, “Menopause is just puberty in reverse”. The mother~daughter connection is the most powerful relationship in the life of a girl. For some mother-daughter pairs, it’s not too rocky. For others, this can be a turbulent season where expectations and limits are constantly being examined and stretched. (And I am not just talking the teen/mom experience here…). Let’s talk about what really matters. I love working with groups. Groups of teens, groups of women and Mother/Daughter groups. Anyone interested in putting a group together, give me a call.

 

 

Classes for Mothers and Daughters!

 

Introduction to Mother~Daughter Circle: A mother/daughter circle creates a safe space to strengthen bonds, improve communication and affirm the unique dynamic that the mother/daughter relationship creates. Join me for this fun and interactive introduction to the mother/daughter circle. Open to mother/daughters of all ages!!!

 

8 Week Course – Mother ~ Daughter Circle

 

Mondays, 6:30 – 8:00 p.m., Starting April 2, 2012 – Layton UT

 

Cost is $247

 

  • Includes tuition for Mother and Daughter
  • Workbook
  • & 12 hours of class time!

 

Your Takeaway!

 

  • Realize you are both unique individuals
  • Awareness that you have individual journeys that cross paths
  • Being OK if someone chooses a different path than is expected.
  • Guide mothers and teens on a path of self discovery, self love and self esteem.
  • Build a strong foundation so you can live a life of passion, principles and purpose

 

Payment can be made in 2 installments. ~Bring another Mother/Daughter pair to receive 10% off your tuition!~

 

  Mother and Daughter Class starts soon! See my Events Page!