Gifts From The Soul
Posted by: Ronda Devereaux | December 22, 2013 | 11:44 am
The holiday frenzy, a newsletter, and a Christmas program at my daughters school has left me ruminating about what I am going to call gifts from the soul. We have created a culture of over the top excessive holidays (OK, not just holidays), that leave us gasping for air and crying over our pocketbooks when they are over. We buy into it hook, link and sinker.
A gift, like any interaction, is a transfer of energy from one person to another. Typically the giver chooses an object, wraps it in a box, ties a ribbon around it, writes a card, and presents it. Then the receiver reads the card, undoes the wrapping, reacts to the gift, and takes that subtle energy in. These vibes continue to permeate if the gift is used or displayed. Ideally this ritual is an extension of the heart, a sign of respect, appreciation. At worst, though, it’s a ploy to manipulate, bribe, blackmail, show off, or is part of a give-to-get cycle. (- Dr. Judith Orloff)
So that really expensive gift that you are giving (that you are stressing out about paying for) is permeated with ‘ stress ‘ . It holds that energy. That gift that you are resentful that you even had to buy is filled with that resentment. That present that you are angry about having to purchase is now full of anger. You get the picture.
On the other side of that fence (and you know I have to look at both sides) is how the energy of how we receive a gift. If we tell them “Oh, you shouldn’t have” – what kind of energy do we send back to them. If we judge what they are giving us…. well that doesn’t send out the old positive vibes either.
I actually saw a preview of one of the Amish reality shows the other day as my husband was channel surfing. A man on the show gave a pregnant goat to a woman as a Christmas gift. The woman was soooo excited. She said that every Amish woman wants a goat for Christmas. It shows that man’s intention, is practical and provides for her. A pregnant goat was over the top because it shows that he is looking out for her future. As I was thinking of the spirit of the season and the meaning behind it all, this vignette seemed to resonate with the spirit (I know it was on reality TV – but the tradition and sentiment behind the concept was there). But then again, could this have been a ploy to manipulate or be part of the give-to-get cycle that Dr. Orloff talks about above?
This led me to thinking (my brain never stops) about the gifts I am giving this holiday. How many of them have that soulful sentiment behind them? How many were so that everyone had an equal number of gifts under the tree or so someone wouldn’t feel bad or left out? (check out one of my blogs from last year Busy, Busy, Busy, Stress, Stress, Stress). Which one’s would I not have bothered with if I didn’t by into our over the top, excessive holiday culture dujour? I wonder what gifts I would have given and to whom if I really followed the sentiment of soulful giving. If I stripped it down and really resonated with each gift without worrying about if anyone else’s feelings would be hurt, does it look expensive enough, blah, blah, blah, bah humbug. Gifts because I wanted to give, not just because it was “the season of giving” (that was sarcastic by the way).
Things that make you go hmmmmmm…….