Daring Greatly ~ Brene Brown
Posted by: Ronda Devereaux | January 5, 2013 | 5:02 pm
At the EVO Conference in 2010 I had the honor of hearing Brene Brown give a keynote on Authenticity. I instantly became a raving fan. Last summer during a blog challenge I participated in, I blogged about her book “The Gifts of Imperfection”. Her latest book Daring Greatly recently came out, and I thought I would start the New Year off with another dive into the vat of self reflection. You see, her books always turn you inwards. They make you take a look at yourself and the space that you hold in this world (and how you are holding that space).
The phrase Daring Greatly comes from a phrase in a speech by Theodore Roosevelt.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again.
Because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;
Who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement , and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…..”
Brene talks alot about vulnerability. This phrase points to the fact that vulnerability is not a weakness. Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.
Brene has studied and researched shame for many years. Shame is the major reason many of us won’t engage with being vulnerable. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.
We waste so much time in our lives trying to be perfect. Trying not to let anyone see who we really are. What if rather than sitting on the sidelines and hurling judgment and advice, we dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.
I invite you to take this journey with me (and Brene – I swear that she is going to show up on my doorstep one day for tea). Ask yourself these questions:
- What drives our fear of being vulnerable?
- How are we protecting ourselves from vulnerability?
- What price are we paying when we shut down and disengage?
- How do we own and engage with vulnerability so we can start transforming the way we live, love, parent, and lead?